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But, Why?

September 14, 2018 By Katie Nash, LCSW Leave a Comment

But, Why?

My 4 year old started pre school at a new school today after spending 2.5 years at the same daycare. We made the choice to move him to prepare him for Kindergarten next year and to provide him with a different, richer experience. Two of his best friends go to his new school. It’s a warm, caring, nurturing and playful environment to learn in. But explaining why something is changing to a 4 year old is really hard. With every answer we responded to his questions with we have been met with “but, why?” Hearing that question over and over got me thinking about change and how we, as human beings, are such creatures of habit. I drink coffee out of the same mug everyday. I sleep on the same side of the bed every night. I sing the same songs to my kids at bedtime. We like the comfort of stability because we know on some level there is more about life that is out of our control than in our control. We cling to rituals and the expected because the unexpected feels scary. But as much as we feel fear in the face of the unknown, we are also resilient and adaptable. Life is hard. Change is even harder. The two are interconnected and essential to one another. How can we grow if everything stays exactly the same?

Brene Brown talks about the power of “courage over comfort” in her work researching shame and vulnerability. She says it is the people willing to rumble with failure and who choose courage over comfort that are the real heroes in the world. I couldn’t agree more. Humans love being comfortable. It’s easy. It’s a way of avoiding shame and guilt and embarrassment and all of the emotions we consider “icky”. The cost of living only in comfort is great. It costs us our self worth, joy, and the experience of growing through change.

I dropped my son off and he was scared, sad, and didn’t want me to leave his side. When I picked him up he burst out of the classroom with a huge smile on his face and enveloped me with a hug. The pride he felt for doing the hard thing was so evident, as was his relief that it was over and he was back in his safe place. I have no doubt he will continue to feel all the icky feelings as he gets used to his new school and his new teachers. And when he’s comfortable and settled, another change will come his way. That’s the way life works. It makes us stronger. It makes us braver. It makes us better able to face the inevitable pain and suffering that comes with being human. It’s in the struggle that we learn what we are made of. We learn just how worthy we are of love and joy and the comfort that comes after having the courage.

My son came home and ate lunch and watched an episode of Paw Patrol. He was peaceful. And he will go back to school on Friday and do it all over again…

We do the hard thing and then we curl up in the comfortable place resting up for the next hard thing.

Filed Under: Blog, Family Therapy, Parenting

Let the Weeds Grow

November 27, 2017 By Katie Nash, LCSW Leave a Comment

Does your to-do list look something like this most days?

  • Meal plan for the week
  • Grocery shop
  • Finish laundry
  • Prepare kids for the week of school/daycare/babysitter/etc.
  • Mow the lawn
  • Fall clean up/leaf blowing
  • Finish weeding flower beds
  • Make vet appointment for the dog
  • Send emails that are waiting in drafts at work
  • Dentist appointments for family
  • Organize summer clothes and store for winter

This list could go on, and on, and on. Yours might look a little different and you may have a different stress threshold than someone else. But the point remains—most people are overbooked, overwhelmed, and over tired. Especially when they are raising children. We exist in a culture that puts emphasis on perfection and makes it nearly impossible to achieve. We live in a culture that fosters comparing ourselves to others whether it be how much money we make, how smart our children are, or how tidy our yards are. We fill our homes with quotes that are meant to remind us to slow down, breathe, enjoy the little things, but still get buried with feelings of not being good enough or worthy enough.

The first thing I do when I get a patient who is suffocating by their to-do lists and feelings of low self worth is help them to stop. Just stop. You see that list above? What is missing from it? How about these things…

Self-care
Family-time
Fresh-air
Playtime

I know, I know, THERE’S NO TIME! But the thing is, we all have to make time because the other stuff just doesn’t matter if we aren’t checking off those boxes that feed our souls and nourish our relationships. I have to remind myself of this as much as anyone else does which is why this post is titled what it is. This summer after having a child, being away from work but still working at home to maintain my business, and having all of those other nasty to-dos build up week after week I finally had to make a decision. I decided to let the weeds grow. Because in order to take care of myself, be present for my husband, children, and friends and family, something had to give. So my house isn’t as tidy as I would like it to be and my yard isn’t going to win any green thumb awards. But my kids are happy, healthy, and we are moving through this season as a family with as much grace as we can.

Filed Under: Anxiety, Blog, Family Therapy, Parenting, Psychotherapy, Stress, Wellness Tagged With: anxiety, parenting, stress, therapy

Newtown Family Therapy & Wellness Featured in the Newtown Bee

May 15, 2017 By Katie Nash, LCSW Leave a Comment

Newtown Family Therapy & Wellness Featured in the Newtown Bee

Newtown Family Therapy & Wellness was recently featured in the Newtown Bee. The article covers the news about our additional services (acupuncture and massage therapy) as well as our expanded space. You can read the full article here:
Newtown Family Therapy & Wellness Broadening Services In Expanded Space.

Filed Under: Acupuncture, Blog, Family Therapy, Massage Therapy, Online Therapy, Psychotherapy, Wellness Tagged With: acupuncture, massage therapy, online therapy, psychotherapy, therapy

Newtown Family Therapy & Wellness

October 19, 2016 By Katie Nash, LCSW Leave a Comment

Newtown Family Therapy & Wellness

I’m not sure I can say that opening Newtown Family Therapy always meant eventually having it evolve into a wellness center. The idea was always there, but I was completely unsure how this venture would go and what the need and response would be to it. I don’t think I could have imagined that a year and nine months after opening our doors we would be where we are today. What started as one office and one therapist is now 4 offices, 3 therapists, 1 massage therapist, and 1 acupuncturist. As with many things, it was in the evolution that it became clear to me why it was working and what was needed to move forward.

I remember vividly the time in my life when the word wellness suddenly came to hold a deep meaning for me personally. It was when I needed it the most and when I understood it the least. I was young and felt “unwell” due to a life lived going full speed ahead and never stopping to properly breathe or care for myself. Without going into the gory details of my own evolution I feel charged to share that without the things I feel so passionately about now, namely therapy, acupuncture, healing touch, meditation, and connection, I would be lost. Wellness to me speaks to the life long process of understanding yourself physically, spiritually, and emotionally. It goes beyond seeking a “quick fix” to cure all that ails you to starting the journey to truly understanding yourself and what you need to be well in all areas of your life. Dr. Bill Hettler, co-founder of the National Wellness Institute, developed an interdependent model of wellness that includes 6 categories necessary to balance and wellness: Occupational, Physical, Social, Intellectual, Spiritual, and Emotional. It’s easy to be doing well in one of those areas and suffering in many of the others. What happens then is unbalance and unrest internally.

I believe we can’t do this alone. Any of us. Wellness is a team concept. One that needs connection and honesty to thrive. It is this belief that brought me to turning my private practice into a wellness center. I was seeing clients and constantly looking for other ways to help them and connect them to resources that they needed. My dream of being able to do that all in one place came to fruition as did opening Newtown Family Therapy & Wellness, I knew it was time and the doors opened up in front of me as I pushed on them.

The first step towards wellness starts with owning your story, knowing you want to feel better overall, and taking responsibility for your life. The minute you do that the doors will open for you to begin creating change. I hope we can help in more ways than one. In addition to therapy we now offer online therapy for those who can’t make it to the office, acupuncture, cupping, and massage therapy.

Contact us for a free consultation and to see where your journey to wellness can begin.

Filed Under: Acupuncture, Blog, Family Therapy, Massage Therapy, Online Therapy, Wellness Tagged With: acupuncture, massage therapy, news, online therapy, therapy

"Stop Crying"

April 1, 2016 By Katie Nash, LCSW

My husband had a business trip in Florida this past week and I decided to pack up my 18 month old son and myself and tag along for some sun and warm weather. I am so glad I did as it was just what we all needed as we eagerly await the real arrival of spring. Traveling back home is never as much fun as traveling to wherever you are going. We got up at 4:30am to pack up and head to the airport for our 7am flight. While my husband and I could rationalize and understand and drink coffee to cope with the feeling of being ripped from our beds and our vacation at an ungodly hour, our 18 month old couldn’t do any of those things. For the most part he was a dream and the whole travel experience seemed to be more exciting than anything else for him. But there were moments when I could see in his eyes and hear in his consistent repetition of saying “mama” over and over that he was cooked and needed to be back home surrounded by familiarity and structure.

Our flight was full of families as Florida is such a wonderful and convenient trip from the northeast. The flight was rather turbulent and I think we were all relieved to touch down at JFK and have our feet on the ground again. In making our way through the airport out to our car with all of our bags, tired, hungry, and missing the sun and palm trees, I noticed another family that had been on our flight with two kids a bit older than mine. The little girl who was probably around 5 was crying loudly, hysterically, dramatically, and without ceasing. I saw the look on her parents’ faces, they had another little boy in tow younger than she was, bags hanging from each shoulder, a look of sheer exhaustion on their faces that I am sure mirrored ours. And then the father stopped them, looked his daughter in the face, and screamed loudly “stop crying, stop crying, STOP CRYING!” Which in turn, and without surprise, made her cry even harder, to which he rolled his eyes and they continued making their way through the airport. For a moment I could relate to every single member of that family. I could relate to the little girl that was crying, tired from traveling, probably hungry, sick of walking and carrying her small backpack full of treasures. I could relate to the mother carrying the little boy, her arms aching from the weight of everything she had been lugging around since before dawn that morning. And I could relate to the father screaming at his daughter, desperate for some quiet, to be done traveling, and to have the crying JUST STOP.

Being a parent takes more self restraint than any job I have ever had. It pushes me through a maze of emotions on a daily, sometimes hourly, basis. In the midst of the most ethereal joy I have ever known there are also moments of complete frustration where I question myself and life and everything in between. As a therapist and a person who has overcome my own personal battles throughout life I am keenly aware of the toll that emotional neglect has on a person’s life and psyche. I am more aware of this in the moments where my son is literally hanging from my leg as I try to make dinner, go to the bathroom, or fold laundry, than I am of my frustration. There are far too many people in this world who were told at a small and most impressionable age to “stop crying”, sending the message that feelings are not ok unless they are acceptable and comfortable. So they learn to stuff their sadness, their disappointment, their hurt, their anger, and their fear. They stuff it and it festers and grows and becomes a lump that never goes away. It manifests as headaches, stomachaches, dry skin, insomnia, depression, anxiety, insecurity. How is one supposed to shut off the negative feelings that are a part of being human? The only way to do it is to also shut off the positive ones. So people numb. They numb instead of communicating, instead of feeling, instead of embracing the dark along with the light. They end up living half a life.

But there is another option, especially as parents. We can teach our children it is ok to have all of their feelings. That doesn’t mean giving them exactly what they want when they cry, it doesn’t mean catering to their every disappointment and whimper to ease their discomfort. It means sitting with them in their discomfort and allowing them to feel their feelings. It means normalizing their experience and teaching them that it is ok to cry. This is true and equally as important in adulthood as it is in childhood. We must give one another permission and space to feel, even when it is uncomfortable.

My toddler has temper tantrums, just like any other, and what I always choose to do is to sit with him in it, wait it out, and make sure he hears me calmly say I am here and ready to comfort him when he wants it. Eventually he stops crying and crawls into my lap, exhausted from the surge of feelings he has just experienced and knowing he is not alone. It’s what we all need sometimes. In the darkness when the world feels cold and lonely, we need to know we aren’t alone and our feelings are our road back to the light.

Filed Under: Anxiety, Blog, Parenting, Stress Tagged With: anxiety, parenting, stress

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