Does your to-do list look something like this most days?
- Meal plan for the week
- Grocery shop
- Finish laundry
- Prepare kids for the week of school/daycare/babysitter/etc.
- Mow the lawn
- Fall clean up/leaf blowing
- Finish weeding flower beds
- Make vet appointment for the dog
- Send emails that are waiting in drafts at work
- Dentist appointments for family
- Organize summer clothes and store for winter
This list could go on, and on, and on. Yours might look a little different and you may have a different stress threshold than someone else. But the point remains—most people are overbooked, overwhelmed, and over tired. Especially when they are raising children. We exist in a culture that puts emphasis on perfection and makes it nearly impossible to achieve. We live in a culture that fosters comparing ourselves to others whether it be how much money we make, how smart our children are, or how tidy our yards are. We fill our homes with quotes that are meant to remind us to slow down, breathe, enjoy the little things, but still get buried with feelings of not being good enough or worthy enough.
The first thing I do when I get a patient who is suffocating by their to-do lists and feelings of low self worth is help them to stop. Just stop. You see that list above? What is missing from it? How about these things…
I know, I know, THERE’S NO TIME! But the thing is, we all have to make time because the other stuff just doesn’t matter if we aren’t checking off those boxes that feed our souls and nourish our relationships. I have to remind myself of this as much as anyone else does which is why this post is titled what it is. This summer after having a child, being away from work but still working at home to maintain my business, and having all of those other nasty to-dos build up week after week I finally had to make a decision. I decided to let the weeds grow. Because in order to take care of myself, be present for my husband, children, and friends and family, something had to give. So my house isn’t as tidy as I would like it to be and my yard isn’t going to win any green thumb awards. But my kids are happy, healthy, and we are moving through this season as a family with as much grace as we can.